So what happens when bedtime is no longer applicable to your kids?
You don't get time together - that's what.
There is this balance between going to bed with my husband, who has a pretty set routine due to his early mornings, and waiting up for a kid. I will always wait up for my kids. Always.
BUT that sacrifices the precious few hours with the hubster.
The kids aren't always out and about. When they're home they are in your space, which also equates to no alone time.
Well, you've got to figure it out, otherwise your marriage will suffer.
We try to talk once or twice during the day, and albeit brief, it is a connection.
We send quick texts to one another, even if it's just a heart emoji, to let the other know we are thinking about them.
We grab ahold of every moment we can together. Sometimes it is just a trip to the grocery store, or to fill a car with gas. We ride together to Home Depot to grab salt for the water softener. Stupid little, simple things. We utilize the time we have.
I also read, long ago, that closeness matters. Even if you're not doing the same thing, try to do it in the same area. If he's on the sofa catching up on emails, I grab my kindle and sit beside him. It may not be glamorous, but it's still a connection.
Quantity vs Quality in a relationship is more about quantity with some quality mixed in to keep it fresh. Time is valuable.
Yesterday I shared some thoughts about priorities.
The things you spend TIME on determine your PRIORITIES.
My husband is my priority and I need to make sure he knows that. When this parenting thing is all said and done, it's the relationship with him that really matters.