Therapy. We all need it. Come on. Admit it. You do too.
The thing is, a good therapist helps you figure out how your mind and heart work and eventually, together, you make progress toward a better you.
Well boys and girls. That's what you're here for. Internet therapy.
CLARIFICATION: My internet therapy.
We're going to connect, you and I, on a level that bonds us better than anything else out there. Parenting. Yep. Regardless of who, what, where, or why, us parents HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER! It's an unwritten law. I recognize that not all parents fully comprehend said law, but that aside, WE know. You and I. We understand each other.
We knew ourselves not so long ago. We had dreams. We had ideas.
Before marriage and kids, those dreams reached the sky. Personally, I was headed to law school, and not planning on any kids, a spouse was optional. (ahem: Completely Self-Focused) Boy, did that plan go awry. Met hubs and he instantly stole my heart. I did everything in my power to make him mine for always and forever. In that magical moment when the constant vomiting confirmed that there was a little baby forming inside my body, I wanted nothing more than to be his mama. Then, miraculously, it happened again. I was beyond thrilled, another sweet boy! My dreams had evolved.
That's the thing with dreams, they are constantly changing.
Not so long ago, those dreams consisted of potty training, then mastering multiplication facts. They evolved into teaching him how to safely pull across four - yes FOUR - lanes of traffic to make a left turn into a busy intersection.
See. Change. Evolution.
The thing is with this whole parenting thing, we sometimes lose ourselves. We lose our heart inside of theirs. We lose our mind (sometimes literally) to the day-to-day. We just plain lose ourselves in our children.
Now don't get me wrong. I think this, to some degree, is how it is intended to be. If our Father in Heaven wanted us to remain completely separate from our offspring, he wouldn't have sent them so needy. They would have been more like tadpoles, or something.
I think this motherly instinct is divine by nature. The trick is to figure out how to do it all. How to remain an individual person, a partner to your spouse, and a mother to your children; all at the same time. We have to continue to know our heart, our mind. We have to continue to progress as individuals.
When the time comes for those little birds to leave the nest, you've got to know yourself. You've got to have a relationship with that other adult that is in this adventure with you.
There you have it. The reason why I need you. The reason why, maybe, you might need me too. They say it takes a village to raise a child, but maybe that village can help us grown-ups, too.
My hope is that you find something here that fills your soul, and that you'll leave a little bit of yourself so that others can be lifted by you.
Welcome to my village. Come in. Sit. Stay awhile....
The thing is, a good therapist helps you figure out how your mind and heart work and eventually, together, you make progress toward a better you.
Well boys and girls. That's what you're here for. Internet therapy.
CLARIFICATION: My internet therapy.
We're going to connect, you and I, on a level that bonds us better than anything else out there. Parenting. Yep. Regardless of who, what, where, or why, us parents HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER! It's an unwritten law. I recognize that not all parents fully comprehend said law, but that aside, WE know. You and I. We understand each other.
We knew ourselves not so long ago. We had dreams. We had ideas.
Before marriage and kids, those dreams reached the sky. Personally, I was headed to law school, and not planning on any kids, a spouse was optional. (ahem: Completely Self-Focused) Boy, did that plan go awry. Met hubs and he instantly stole my heart. I did everything in my power to make him mine for always and forever. In that magical moment when the constant vomiting confirmed that there was a little baby forming inside my body, I wanted nothing more than to be his mama. Then, miraculously, it happened again. I was beyond thrilled, another sweet boy! My dreams had evolved.
That's the thing with dreams, they are constantly changing.
Not so long ago, those dreams consisted of potty training, then mastering multiplication facts. They evolved into teaching him how to safely pull across four - yes FOUR - lanes of traffic to make a left turn into a busy intersection.
See. Change. Evolution.
The thing is with this whole parenting thing, we sometimes lose ourselves. We lose our heart inside of theirs. We lose our mind (sometimes literally) to the day-to-day. We just plain lose ourselves in our children.
Now don't get me wrong. I think this, to some degree, is how it is intended to be. If our Father in Heaven wanted us to remain completely separate from our offspring, he wouldn't have sent them so needy. They would have been more like tadpoles, or something.
I think this motherly instinct is divine by nature. The trick is to figure out how to do it all. How to remain an individual person, a partner to your spouse, and a mother to your children; all at the same time. We have to continue to know our heart, our mind. We have to continue to progress as individuals.
When the time comes for those little birds to leave the nest, you've got to know yourself. You've got to have a relationship with that other adult that is in this adventure with you.
There you have it. The reason why I need you. The reason why, maybe, you might need me too. They say it takes a village to raise a child, but maybe that village can help us grown-ups, too.
My hope is that you find something here that fills your soul, and that you'll leave a little bit of yourself so that others can be lifted by you.
Welcome to my village. Come in. Sit. Stay awhile....